Welcome to Week 14 of Your Healing Journey!
Last week, I introduced the concept of trusting yourself after trauma. This week, we’ll focus on learning to trust your personal alarm system and discerning between real threats and triggers. Understanding and trusting this system is crucial for feeling safe and confident.
I’m Monica, a trauma therapist based in New York City. My practice focuses on using cutting-edge, evidence-based treatments to help people heal from trauma and get on with living the lives they’re meant to have. This blog is a space to share insights, tools, and support to aid in your recovery process.
Understanding Your Personal Alarm System
The Role of Your Alarm System
Your body’s alarm system, which includes the fight, flight, freeze, submit, and attach/cry responses, is designed to protect you from danger. These responses are your body’s natural way of ensuring your safety. Trusting this system is crucial for feeling secure and confident in your ability to navigate the world.
Real Threats vs. Triggers
Learning to discern between real threats and triggers is essential. Real threats require immediate action, while triggers are reminders of past trauma that may not pose actual danger. Understanding the difference can help you respond appropriately and feel more in control.
Practical Exercise: Tuning into Your Alarm System
1. Body Awareness:
- Spend a few minutes each day tuning into your body’s signals. Notice any physical sensations, such as tension or a racing heart. Pay attention to what these sensations might be telling you.
2. Journaling:
- Write about times when you felt your alarm system activating. Reflect on whether the response was to a real threat or a trigger. Consider what factors contributed to your reaction and how you can better understand these signals in the future.
3. Practice Discernment:
- Practice discerning between real threats and triggers by asking yourself questions like, "Is this a present danger?" and "What evidence do I have that this is a threat?" Over time, this practice can help you become more adept at recognizing when your alarm system is reacting to a true danger versus a past trauma reminder.
Reflection Questions
1. How often do you notice your alarm system activating? Reflect on the frequency and circumstances that trigger your alarm system.
2. What physical sensations do you experience when your alarm system is triggered? Identifying these sensations can help you recognize when you’re responding to a trigger.
3. How can you practice discerning between real threats and triggers in your daily life? Consider practical steps you can take to improve your ability to distinguish between the two.
Work With Me
If you're finding it challenging to discern between real threats and triggers, remember that help is available. Working with a trauma therapist can provide the support and guidance you need on this journey. I offer EMDR intensives designed to help you reconnect with yourself and rebuild that trust. If you're interested, let's work together to create a personalized plan for your healing.
What’s Next?
Next week, I’ll explore interoceptive awareness and understanding your inner signals. This will help you reconnect with your body and better understand your internal cues.
Polyvagal Theory and Pumpkin Pie
Finally, as I announced on Tuesday, I'll be hosting Nervous System Regulation Workshops leading up to Thanksgiving. Register now to reserve your spot and learn evidence-based, trauma-informed tools for managing holiday stress.
Thank you for being here and taking this important step on your healing journey. Remember, healing is a journey, and you know the way. Trust yourself.
Warmly,
Monica
Disclaimer: The information provided in this newsletter is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your healthcare provider before making any decisions regarding your mental health. Reading this newsletter does not establish a therapeutic relationship.
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